SISTERHOOD Guest Post: ‘Proud to be Afghan, Proud to be Muslim, & Proud to be Pedaling’

Guest post by Kyleanne Hunter.

Photo credit Claudia Lopez (www.claudialopezphotography.com)

Photo credit Claudia Lopez (www.claudialopezphotography.com)

For most of you reading this, the bike is important.  For many of you, it may be the thing.  You plan work, dates, time with your friends and family around your training schedule.  If work goes late or plans change to interfere with your ride, the world may as well have imploded in on you, because it’s that catastrophic.  You count calories and watts to find that magic strength to weight ratio.  You fuss over race weight, LT power and training hours.  You need Di2.  You shop for teams based on the discount you get at bike shops and how many races they’ll comp for you.  We’ve all done this.  (yes, I’m guilty of it too) We’ve also all cloaked ourselves in altruism to do a charity ride in a nod to social consciousness that fits in our training plans.

And while we’re fussing over race wheels, race weight, and watts, we’re taking for granted that we get to ride our bikes.  So close your eyes for a moment and remove yourself from the decision of choosing between your Zipps’ or Enves’ and imagine that when you go out to ride you are choosing to risk your life.  Imagine that just to pedal to the store you are defying centuries of law and cultural and religious norms.  Imagine that you have to train in secret, not because your significant other is upset that you bought yet another set of race wheels, but because a large portion of your society considers it a morality crime.

I was very fortunate to get the opportunity to join the crew of Mountain2Mountain and Afghan Cycles to deliver some new road bikes and equipment to an amazing group of women in Afghanistan, and chronicle their boundary-breaking journey.  Like any revolutionary, the women of the team are only peripherally aware of the larger-scale impact they are having.  They are riding their bikes because they love it.  They are risking societal shame and outcast because they love their country, and hope to paint it in a positive light to the world.  When they speak of the bike, and their ability to race, they sound much like my friends and teammates.  The laugh and sing with their friends on team road trips.  They joke with each other and their coach.  They balance school, work and family with training time.  Because of the dangers – both culturally and physically from living in a war zone – they get to train 2-3 times a week.  But they make the most of these limited training sessions.

When they speak of sending a message to the world, they speak of their love for Afghanistan, but there is so much more than that.  While there were attempts to create a women’s cycling team 20 years ago, Taliban control and fundamentalist rule made it impossible.  The Taliban forced women into the shadows, and strict interpretations of Islamic law and morality codes forbade women from straddling the saddle of a bike.  To put it in context, riding a bike carried the same stigma and punishment as prostitution.

Yet as the Taliban has been loosing its grip on the country, young women and men have begun to emerge and question Taliban-imposed law, asserting what they know to be right. Read more

SISTERHOOD interview with Anna Holmes, Founder of Jezebel

Jezebel: Celebrity, Sex, Fashion for Women. Without Airbrushing. Those of us who regularly read sites relating to gender, feminism and related issues have at some point shared links and must-reads from Jezebel. Anna Holmes founder of the site was recently at the National Conference on Media Reform organized by Free Press and presented in a panel “Pop Culture Critiques: Somewhere Between Love and Hate” along with awesome media feminists Jaclyn Friedman, Elisa Kreisinger, Susana M. Morris and Cameron Russell. SISTERHOOD’s resident blogger Hyshyama Hamin caught up with her for a brief interview afterwards.

Pic by GQ

Pic by GQ

 

H: What is the story behind Jezebel?

AH: In 2007, I was asked to create a site for the company (Gawker Media) that owns it. As an African – American woman I felt the mainstream media and other women’s magazines did not recognize diversity. It was very “white”. I was frustrated that the focus was on appearance and in getting and keeping male acquaintances or partners. Women were told to have a man, be thin and look white. And I wanted a site that acknowledged that women had interests in fashion and popular culture but that didn’t treat them as ‘stupid’ or persuade them to buy things. A site that catered to women of color had more of a world focus than a US focus and embraced the concept of feminist; and one that I would read and be proud of.  Young women might come into the site looking for fashion or media related reads, but who would stay because of interesting and funny discussions happening between readers.

H: What is different about Jezebel from the other similar sites out there?

AH: Back in 2007, there were a number of big websites selling fashion and beauty relating information to women. It was a niche market. When Jezebel was launched, we were one of the few sites on fashion, celebrity news and beauty that was not selling anything to women. When we started getting a reader base a lot of other copy cat sites emerged. Readers who had not encountered writings about popular culture came into the site for things like fashion and beauty, were able to get informed and some even politicized because of the way the content was written but also through comments from other readers. The success of the site has been on a large part due to the readers and their engagement. Jezebel was maybe revolutionary, but definitely new and provocative!

H: Any advice for young women writers?

AH: Feel empowered to speak your mind even when you are doubtful and let go of the impulse of holding back. You have to understand that opinions change over time and that criticism is not the end of the world. When/if criticized, take some deep breaths and think, is this something I can learn from or not? People on the internet get offensive and most often the reaction is to be defensive and not listen. There maybe a grain of truth in criticism so you need to be open and learn from it.

Writing is a process and we must always to strive and adopt an open mind when possible. The web gives us a way to connect to likeminded people, we are less alone in our views and are exposed to more people we can learn from. Also when you write (articles or op-eds) unless the comments are moderated do not read them. Lastly be easy on yourself!

While Anna Holmes no longer manages Jezebel, she continues to be engaged in writing and editing. She has also just completed her book “The Book of Jezebel: An Illustrated Encyclopedia of Lady Things” which will be out in October. We look forward to reading it and wish her all the very best! 

SISTERHOOD Guest Post: Sri Lanka – “When sleeping women wake, mountains move”

Sisterhood Guest Post by social justice advocate and artist Hafsa. 

Pic by Rushda Mohideen

Pic by Rushda Mohinudeen

Last June, while visiting a north-western province in Sri Lanka, I had the chance of observing a community development initiative that focused on women’s empowerment and enhancing their role in participatory democracy. One of interesting prescripts that I observed was that most of the requests came from local women, who brought their concerns to informal gatherings; from where community organizers took on the role of coming up with ways to effectively address their concerns. These concerns ranged from raising awareness on issues related to domestic violence, marching against a rise in sexual abuse of minors and the culture of impunity surrounding it, and addressing what they saw as a lack of Tamil-language services in the local general hospital and transportation services. The latter of which was rectified by implementing a system of identification, whereby patients now need only present a color-coded card in emergency situations to receive services in the appropriate language, reducing the dangers of misdiagnosis and further distress.

Such ingenious solutions by locals stem from their ties to “place”, which is simultaneously an ecological design practice as a well as a proven sustainable development paradigm. It’s the idea that solutions derived from the lived experiences of locals have a transformative potential for communities, which far exceed the effectiveness of top-down policies implemented by central authorities. These women had no thought for waiting around until the authorities addressed their issues, they simply seized the day. All of this is to say that, in a country mired by nepotism and bureaucratic red -tape, the remarkable achievements of such women, demonstrate that there is still space, however small, in the Sri Lankan socio-political landscape for women to push for change. Needless to say that these women, who mainly spoke Tamil and many of whom were Muslim, get over looked time and time again by much of the media, and even parts of civil society, who only continue to obscure their presence from the public psyche.

In light of the rise in Islamophobic elements within Sri Lanka, many of the country’s Muslim women now find themselves in the frontlines of the chauvinism spearheaded by racist groups such as the Bodu Bala Sena (Buddhist Power Force). Muslim women, who increasingly don the veil or the long black robes, have been cited as a threat to such group’s xenophobic ideals, who find them guilty by association due to increasing visibility.

This is, of course, nothing new in my part of the world, where the meanings and connotations of Muslim women’s sartorial attires have been perpetually intellectualized, politicized and mystified since the Orientalist narratives began trickling in from the colonial era. More recently, the attacks on the world trade center and the subsequent “War on Terror”, has garnered new waves of (mis)representation of visibly Muslim women as either oppressed and in need of saving – incidentally a cause championed by mainstream U.S feminists during the Afghan war, or as abettors to violent extremism. It’s particularly unsettling for me to see these sentiments, or rather what I more comfortably understood to be the “western” obsession with veiled Muslim bodies, beginning to mirror in the psyche of subalterns on the other side of the globe. Looking at this situation through the post-colonial lens, particularly in the post-911 context, might be a worthwhile intellectual exercise for the Island’s scholars, but for now, it suffices to say that the rise in Islamophobia threatens to seriously “other”ize and dehumanize the country’s millennia-old Muslim community. Read more

SISTERHOOD Guest Post: “100 years of Indian cinema” – The women who have intrigued on screen

Guest post by Sisterhood guest blogger Selina Ditta (UK) Freelance writer (@selina_writes)

May 3 is being marked as the official 100th birthday of Indian cinema. DG Phalke became known as the “Father of Indian Cinema” after the success of his film Raja Harischandra, screened in Mumbai, in May 1913. It wasn’t considered appropriate for women to work in film at this time so the female characters were played by male actors.

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Padmini

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Seeta Devi

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Mala Sinha

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As 2013 marks its centenary year, I want to take a look at some of the actresses who have broken boundaries in Hindi cinema and hypnotised audiences over the decades.

Devika Rani and Ashok Kumar Achyut Kanya 1936

Devika Rani had an aura and style which audiences loved; her method of acting is studied and emulated to this day. Known as the “First Lady of the Indian screen”, she happened to work on set-design originally and became skilled in many aspects of film including production. She founded the Bombay Talkies film studio in the 1930s with her husband and became a mentor for upcoming actresses. Rani’s films were socially conscious and explored themes of ostracism, caste issues and the prospects of dancing girls. Achoot Kanya (1936) is an interesting film of hers to watch for its technical structure. The storyline is broken up and put together in a pulp fiction way. Much loved – Rani’s “shocker” moment is a scene in Karma (1933), which stunned audiences at the time for the 4-minute long kiss she plants on her co-star.

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SISTERHOOD Guest Post: Boston Marathon Tragedy through the Eyes of a Hijabi Footballer and Wannabe-Runner

By Sisterhood Guest blogger Shireen Ahmed 

Like the rest of the world, I was shocked and horrified when I heard (via Twitter) about the explosions at the finish line of the Boston Marathon.

I was so stressed and immediately thought about my dear family and friends in the area. Despite warnings that cellular service was shut down I immediately started texting and calling them.

Because they are so wonderful and caring they all replied within minutes to assure me that they were safe.

My younger cousin, absolutely dashing and charming fellow whom I adore, works in downtown Boston. I called my Aunt frantically to ask about all of them. By the Grace of God Almighty, my cousin was sick today. And he stayed home. I have never been more thankful for a flu and fever of a family member.

I was waiting to hear back from another friend living in the area but then I was reminded she was in Mexico.

A very close friend messaged me back to also let me know she was OK.I didn’t expect a long conversation and was so, so relieved she and her family were alright.

She had been downtown with her sister and sisters children.

Over 500, 000 spectators and volunteers assemble to watch the magnificent annual race.

I thought about the kids. I thought about when my children come to cheer me on when I run a local marathon (10k) every year. They stand with signs and banners and scream my name as I push towards the end.

To my horror, my blackberry started going crazy when a few members of my football team started emailing to inquire about Chris.

Out teammate was running in Boston.

I texted her and her husband not expecting any reply.

It was the longest 6 minutes I have experiences in eons.

Rich texted back to say Chris was running, just finished when the bomb exploded and they they are “trying to get out of Boston”.

I thanked him and just said “Be safe”.

I started shaking uncontrollably.

Their daughter plays basketball with mine.We have spent countless hours together. Chris and I play together. She is my teammate and my friend.

She texted me as well about 30 minutes later to say “Hi. We are both good. I felt the first bomb in my chest. it was so powerful. thanks for thinking of us”.

I sent out a short message to the rest of my team. I exhaled. Then I went numb.

It hit me how close she was to being hurt. WHY would someone do this?

Then I got angry. I was furious. WHO DOES THIS?

These people are athletes FOR GOD’S SAKE! They come with no political agenda. No motive. They are dedicated; work and sweat for this event.

They are surrounded by family, friends, supporters, trainers, tireless volunteers and event staff.

The incredible athletes and runners committing to 46k of arduous athletic activity.

They have trained for months; physically, mentally and emotionally.

They are drained and just exhausted at the end.

And they are met with explosions. Fire. Fear. Chaos. Injury. Read more

SISTERHOOD Guest Post: ‘Call to arms after watching ‘Banaz: A Love Story’

By Huma Munshi (@Huma101)

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I recently attended a screening of Banaz: a Love Story directed by the Human Rights activist, Deeyah, and was overwhelmed by a sense of frustration and anger. We hear statistics about the numbers of young people, mainly women, experiencing ‘honour’ based violence and oppression but watching Banaz, who was murdered by her family members, gave a stark insight into the horror of what these young people are enduring on a daily basis.

The figures for domestic violence in the UK are grim, make no mistake. The Home Office reported that in the UK, 1 in 4 women will suffer domestic violence in their lifetimes and in 2010/11, 93 women were killed by a partner, ex-partner or lover in the UK. s overwhelmed by a sense of frustration and anger. We hear statistics about the numbers of young people, mainly women, experiencing ‘honour’ based violence and oppression but watching Banaz, who was murdered by her family members, gave a stark insight into the horror of what these young people are enduring on a daily basis.

Recent figures published by the Forced Marriage Unit indicate that they gave advice or support to 1485 cases involving 60 different countries across Asia, the Middle East, Africa, Europe and North America last year. Of the 744 cases where the age was known, over 600 of those involved were young people under the age of 26 and the youngest was aged 2. This is a tiny drop in the ocean of the cases that never get known to the authorities.

Banaz fought time and time again as her father sought to break her will and her spirit. This is exactly what this hate crime – because it is a hate crime – seeks to achieve. There is an intense hatred and fear of women and therefore a need to control them: their autonomy, their sexuality, their intellect, their very essence. Read more

Happy International Women’s Day 2013

A day to perhaps understand how far we’ve come as a women-kind in our quest for justice and equality.

A day perhaps to shed light on the living realities of our sisters, our daughters, and our mothers fighting to live a life of dignity.

A day perhaps to look around us and feel blessed of the many incredible women, young and old who have touched our lives and in our world.

A day perhaps to honor our mentors and our teachers and the many activists and advocates in every nook and cranny of the world striving to do what they do to make sure tomorrow is a better day.

But mostly a day to self-reflect on the Joy of being Woman. Of being uniquely you! Dance, sing, eat some delicious chocolate cake. Laugh, a loud hearty laugh. Love, this amazing woman you are!

We love you!

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Pic by Paula Lerner, who wanted to capture the joy of women in Afghanistan and show the world the happiness of these women. Paula died cancer last year. May she rest in peace. 

 

Love and Solidarity

Sisterhood team.

Response to article “The Islamic Solution to Stop Domestic Violence”

Originally published on the Huffpost Religion blog 

by Sisterhood bloggers and guest bloggers: Samar Esapzai (@SesapZai), Shireen Ahmed (@_shireenahmed_), Vanessa D. Rivera (Nasreen Amina @Nasreen_Vr), Ayesha Asghar(@ashsultana) and Hyshyama Hamin (@SisterhoodArt)

This article is in response to a post by Qasim Rashid of the Muslim Writers Guild of America titled, “The Islamic Solution to Stop Domestic Violence” published in the Huffington Post’s Religion Blog on March 5th, 2012.

Although this post came to our attention a year after it was written, as young Muslim women having worked with and/or written about gender-based violence issues that have  personally affected some of us, we deemed it fit to respond. Also, the points discussed in this article are not only limited to the particular post written by Rashid, but rather it addresses similar arguments that have been made by other writers as well on this issue.

It is a concern to us that Rashid uses the Quran verse 4:34 to explain that it therein contains the “Islamic solution” to domestic violence. He states that according to one perspective of an American social scientist Dr. James Q. Wilson, known for his controversial works on the criminal justice system, that men are more prone to stimulations of anger and aggression and less capable of self-restraint. This, we assume, the author took from one of Wilson’s essays, The Future of Blame in which he cites research from neuropsychiatrist, Dr. Louann Brizendine, where Wilson merely states it as a “claim.” Interestingly, Wilson was also a rational choice theorist on the causation of crime and violence; he has made arguments on the terms that individuals make clear, rational decisions after evaluating all possibilities and does that which benefits them the most.

The theories, both biological and psychological, that claim women and men experience as well as react to anger and violence differently is not new. Christa Reiser, author of Reflections on Anger: Women and Men in a Changing Society writes about how there are other variables such as socio-cultural norms; class and age differences; and process of socialization that explain how men and women react to anger. She writes with regards to a previous research that, “Analysis of independent variables shows that men with low-self esteem, traditional gender roles and attitudes, adversarial sexual attitudes towards women, a history of sexual abuse, and who believe in rape myths generally score higher in hostility towards women.”

So, for Rashid to state only one viewpoint about male violence and saying they have a natural inclination to violence against women is not only biased, but it is also playing into the patriarchal stereotype that men are solely dominated by brute forces, and are therefore unable to control their instincts. This is unfair to men, for not all men are like this; we know of many men who are not violent nor are they inclined towards violent behaviour. And though this behaviour may be universal, for we are living in a global culture of violence and subjugation against women, we cannot automatically conclude that it is part of our biological nature. Violence is a choice; it is not genetically mandatory nor is it innate.

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SISTERHOOD Fiction Series: Guest post “India by Morning”

Guest post by Huma. 

37215705_deed70ac54Everything looks blurry as it always does when Rukshana is without her glasses. The room welcomes her into its warm bosom and she enjoys watching the colours bleed into each other while she considers retrieving her glasses from the top of the oak cabinet. She can smell the incense sticks burning in the corridor – the distinct smell of holy Fridays.

The room is bright and the reach of the sun warms her back and bare arms. Without her glasses all other senses feel heightened. Does one need one’s senses to be heightened on their first day in India when one has come from the cold and grey of London? Probably not, but for today she will allow herself to be cocooned in the offerings of this country.

The green walls are still there as are the white curtains with their darks green flowers and curvy branches. They flutter in the breeze as she catches glimpses of the net-covered windows, like a game of hide-and seek. The nets do not serve a huge purpose in February; this is a month of relative tranquillity from the dramatic Indian weather and in particular, the summer monsoon.

This is when the gushing outpouring of rain from the heavens gives way to the mosquitoes and lizards. She recalls once a lizard falling onto her younger sister’s head as it attempted to climb a wall which her sister was leaning against, she had screamed and shaken her hair rigorously. It had made her 13 year old nephew laugh uproariously; he was very much used to these seasonal Indian idiosyncrasies.

Along with the incense sticks she can smell the fresh breakfast tea brewing. It is not exactly an English cup. She can smell the cardamom pods and the cloves bubbling in the water and she awaits the milky sweetness of her first taste of India.

She hears steps on the marble floor before they reach her. It is her aunt; her shalwar kameez is pink and has a deep maroon border, her hair is wet from her morning bath and she smells like the lilac powder Rukshana can see glimpses of on her neck. Now Rukshana does retrieve her glasses; she wants to see her aunt’s face properly.

“You are up. You can come and have some tea with Waseem and I. He said he wouldn’t have his breakfast without you.”

“Is he not going to work today?” Rukshana wonders aloud, it is 10.30 and even by the standards of Indian weekday mornings, it is getting late for someone to start work.
“He’s decided to stay home today and make sure you are not bored on your first day.”

Rukshana smiles; today is going to be special. There aren’t many times that she can recall having all this to herself. The decision to come to India alone was not without its challenges and mother for one had been reticent. The fact that Rukshana had agreed to spend some time with her aunt and her cousins had been the selling point. Read more

Poem – “Born”

By Sisterhood Blogger Hayah. For the occasion of One Billion Rising – Sri Lanka. 

 

Born.

We brought the light from our grandmothers eyes

The light our mothers wombs held for us

Captured in ever cell passed down through her pains

Voices of her grandmother’s soul in our veins

echoing us into existence..

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SISTERHOOD Guest Post – “The heart of darkness”

Sisterhood Guest Post by Huma @Huma101 

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When I was first given my diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder on an August night two years ago, I felt a strange sense of relief. Finally, I had a language to understand the waves of emotional distress that were consuming me and, to those closest to me, the beginning of the inexplicably destructive behavior  The red strips across my arm and the hair I had chopped off in a frenzy of anger at myself.

At the time it seemed painfully ironic that the trigger was the experience of being with the loveliest and gentlest man I had ever known. I now realize that it was no coincidence that this journey of greater understanding would start with the experience of something as close to love, than I had ever encountered before. There is a juxtaposition of love unleashing the most painful emotions: that acute and terrifying fear of being abandoned. But the trigger situation had to reach the deepest part of me to unleash the flood of painful emotions.

There is a darkness that I have always kept at bay and when finally the dam burst, there were waves and waves of distress and a mental pain that crippled me. The darkness was well suppressed for years before the eruption. I tried to push it away – I worked hard, I mentored others, I was always out with friends, going on holidays, filling all my spare time. The darkness is a voice that tells me that I am “ugly” and “disgusting”. I know that voice intimately. In Islam we are taught that there are two angels, one on each shoulder telling you right from wrong, and sometimes I wonder if this voice is a substitute for those angels; it crushed me. Read more

SISTERHOOD Guest Post – “Find your voice”

Guest post by Sisterhood guest blogger Selina Ditta (UK) Freelance writer, tweets as @selina_writes

Can you imagine a world without Dr. Maya Angelou’s voice?

"Maya Angelou: Letter to My Daughter" at Barnes & Noble in Union Square on October 30, 2008 in New York City. Photo: Maya Angelou's website

“Maya Angelou: Letter to My Daughter” at Barnes & Noble in Union Square on October 30, 2008 in New York City. Photo: Maya Angelou’s website

In the Youtube clip posted at the bottom of this blog; she said some of the experiences that shook her up made her stop speaking, but she realised it was dangerous for her to stay silent.

One quote that strikes me from the YouTube clip:

Mutism is like a drug, it’s so addictive, you don’t have to do anything

There are so many people around the word whose voices are being muted. Sometimes the news catches on and sheds some light: Read more

SISTERHOOD Guest Post – Fearless and Female: Cox’s Bazaar’s Best Surfer

By Sisterhood Guest blogger Shireen Ahmed 

I feel free on the water…where I am from and who I am doesn’t really matter”.- Nassima Atker

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Cox’s Bazaar in the southeast corner of Bangladesh is a perfect spot for surfing. In the early nineties a local resident, Jafar Alam, set up a surf school and promised to teach kids and passer-by how to surf. He was supported and encouraged by a group of Americans who had stopped to surf in Bangladesh. Alam’s surf school: Surfing Bangladesh now has more than 70 participants. One of whom is Nassima Atker, a Rohingya refugee from Burma. Atker moved to Bangladesh with her family to escape persecution, sectarian violence and ethnic cleansing.

According to the United Nations the Muslims of Rohingya are one of the most persecuted minorities in the world. There are more than 200,000 refugees in Bangladesh who are struggling to live in squalor. 40,000 of them are undocumented.  Due to a recent NGO ban in the area, these people are not provided with any type of assistance. They are resented by Bangladesh who insist they are illegal migrants although the Burmese government denies they are Burmese. Since the 8th century their historical and natural ties to land are mostly from Arakan in Burma.

No one is willing to accept or embrace them.

Essentially, they are a people without a home. Rohingya’ are denied citizenship and victims of institutionalized discrimination. They look similar to Bangladeshis and speak a different language and are of a different religion but essentially they are from Burma.

In addition to being a displaced and vulnerable population, the women struggle with poverty, illiteracy, lack of access to health care and are often forced into sexual and forced labour. One woman is facing insurmountable struggles, not only culturally and socio-economically; she is one of Bangladesh’s most agile and skilled surfers. And she is labelled a “whore” for wanting to surf. Obviously, in a region where survival is a basic challenge, surfing and participating in beach activities are not viewed upon favourably. Or a priority. Read more

Poem: In your Honor

Dedicated to the many lives lost in so called “honor” based killings and other forms of senseless violence against women and girls. We choose to remember.

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Oh dear one,

They wished to forget you,

They who are meant to protect you…

What can we do now?

 

Oh dear one,

Do tell us your favorite color?

What did you think of roses?

What songs made you dance?

 

Do you know the sky was blue today,

The stars they shine bright for you…

The roses release their scent in your honor

The birds they sing in memory of you…

 

Their cold heart cannot hold your warm presence, my dear..

But you live on forever in all beings innocent.

- Hayah

 

SISTERHOOD Guest post: Emerging story – Pakistani rape case indicates systemic violence

Sisterhood Guest post by Ayesha Asghar 

I as an advocate have always an extremely tedious time in writing about sexual violence perpetuated upon children.

These particular cases are alarming as this is indicative of a systemic violence in terms of addressing reported cases of sexual assault of minors in religious minority communities of Pakistan. I assume this is a systemic problem as 2 cases of minor from same district has come forward, so I am not sure if there are more incident which havent been reported at all.

I guess this is becoming a trend for Pakistan Peoples Party [PPP] where they have turned out to be one of the biggest violators of women rights and human rights. They do claim to be “liberal” and “progressive” in their values but their actions are far worst than imaginable.

After the case of Rinkle Kumari and Mian Mithoo [MP] who is fiercely protected by PPP, the person who is responsible for abduction, rape and forcible conversion of Rinkle. Now we have new cases of Hindu minor girls who were sexually assaulted in Sindh by a local political worker.

The reason we were getting conflicting reports is because there are two rape incidents of minors from Umerkot. One of Vejanti who is 6yrs old, other one is who is 14 yrs old. Both the cases of assault are politically connected to the leading govt in the same district. The reason I have decided not to use the name of 14yr old survivor as her family is facing an extreme tough time due to her rapists’ political connection.

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SISTERHOOD Perspective Series: Guest post – “Skin bleaching”

Sisterhood Guest post by Selina Ditta (UK) Freelance writer, tweets as @selina_writes

Recently, I’ve been seeing skin bleaching adverts on Freeview Indian channels in the UK. It really bothers me because I am noticing manufacturers taking advantage of those with low self-esteem.

And there are people who might buy these products thinking they can treat their skin colour like they can for acne but not taking into account the long term consequences.

Not long after noticing those kinds of adverts, I was hosting an art workshop in a Halifax primary school. I saw a six-year-old pulling sellotape strips from her face. When I asked what she was doing, her reply was deadpan. She said: “I’m making myself light.” The group of others she was working with casually commented on the issue. These were six-year-old children; brown children who had been influenced at such a young age to judge themselves and other brown people by their own skin colour.

Researching this has shocked me, I didn’t realise how widespread and real this issue is. It’s hard for me to imagine that I might have met someone who’s tried bleaching their skin. But speaking to two beauty businesses in Bradford opened my eyes. I discovered, that even though they didn’t offer the service, women come in asking for skin bleaching products and not just for treating a dark spot here or there, they enquire about lightening their skin. Read more

SISTERHOOD Guest post: Inspiring South Asian women activists

Sisterhood Guest post by Ayesha Asghar (Pakistan, Canada) 

This year has been unique in terms of activism on gender violence, where the violent incidents against women have increased across the globe, the resistance against such heinous crimes have also increased

This post will honour inspiring South Asian women from our history who have made a huge impact in one of most interesting regions in the world. Some of these women activists include the following. Read more

Featured SISTERHOOD Artist: Saba Barnard

Saba Barnard is a first-generation American woman from North Carolina. Her artistic perspective draws from her experience growing up Pakistani and Muslim in the United States.  Saba’s portraits provide commentary on the labels that we use to identify and separate ourselves, with specific regard to gender, race, and religion.  Her focus is on the universal human experience, and she uses her portraits to demonstrate that diversity is not a separating factor, but a place to begin connection.

Artist Statement:

Modern treatment of Muslim subject matter in art and media is closely tied to the political and religious controversy that seems to be pervasive in these “exotic” countries of the East.  While much of the conflict is real, oftentimes, what we see in media does nothing to lessen the perception of the Muslim world as exotic, “other,” and entirely homogenous.  Truly, much art and writing relies on the narrative of the East in exact opposition to the West.

This portrayal is a farce.  There is a massive community of Muslims who live in these Western countries who are not antithetical to “the West.”  This community is made up of individuals, each with their own unique mosaic of culture and experiences.  Islam is not a tiny box. It is not one-dimensional, and neither are the people who identify with the religion.  That such a simplistic perception of these peoples has persisted into our world today is almost laughable.  There is a
place for everyone in this country, yet Muslims have continued to be not only homogenized, but vilified.

PROJECT: “Technicolor Muslimah”

“Technicolor Muslimah” is a series of twelve portraits of Muslim women in acrylic paint, each accompanied by an unedited written statement from the subject.  The canvases are a uniform 18” x 18,” and the women are rendered in bright colors, which, in itself, is a departure from how Muslim women are often portrayed.  This series focuses on aspects of these women that need to be  explored – their humor, their joy, and their kindness.  Each woman is identified as Muslim by her headscarf. This visual symbol is truly the only suggestion of her religion, because my perspective here is humanist.  In addition, eleven of the paintings are presented with props to further support the theme of humor, or to identify the subjects as American, as well as Muslim.

 I want to help expand the Western vocabulary concerning Muslims, with an emphasis on Muslim women.  I want to combat the narrow-minded perception of Muslims not by criticizing anyone’s ignorance, but by providing a more expansive definition of what it means to be Muslim. 

Taiyyaba, Attorney.

Taiyyaba, Attorney.

Amna, Student

 

Sarah A., Mother

Sarah A., Mother

Sara Y., Writer

Sara Y., Writer

Ayesha K., Educator

Ayesha K., Educator

Ayesha A., Photographer

Ayesha A., Photographer

The twelfth portrait is a bit of a departure from the rest of the group.  This portrait is especially important, because it indicates that the story is not over.  This joyful portrayal of Muslim women is only one aspect amongst the kaleidoscope of qualities that these women possess. She faces the viewer directly and asks,

“So what do you think of me, now?”

 

More of Saba’s beautiful work can be found here: 

artbysaba.com
artbysaba.wordpress.com
facebook.com/artbysaba

SISTERHOOD Guest post: Forced marriages and the question of female consent and agency

Sisterhood Guest post by Hyshyama Hamin (Sri Lanka) 

The practice of arranging marriages is highly prevalent within Asian, Arab and African communities and countries around the world. Deeply rooted and ingrained in the culture and customs, it is considered normal for parents and older family members of young men and women to “set up” matrimonial engagements between them. It is viewed as a responsibility of elders in doing so and full consent of the potential bride and groom is expected. In many Muslim communities and countries where there are religious and legal restrictions of social interaction between men and women, and it is common for marriages to be arranged without the prospective bride and groom meeting prior to the marriage ceremony.

Families arranging marriage takes into consideration the castes, tribes, nationality and community that both the bride and groom belong to. As well as the social status and economic standing of families and it is highly dependent on the concept of ‘family name’. Owing to the patriarchal and patrilineal nature of the society in which these practices are rooted, it is also likely within these matrimonial arrangements that men and the family of prospective grooms have more control, voice, opinion and decision making power. The question of whether ‘dowry ’ is required, if so how much or what it would involve, the cost and cost sharing of the ceremonies etc are most likely to be a negotiation between the two parties, with the groom’s side having a larger say. Read more

Poem: Seeing sounds in Gaza

Silence.

The sky is in a yellow glow of ominous silence. The call to dusk prayer has just ended.

5 seconds. 10 seconds. Of silence.

Then I hear, a slow drone of jet propellers.

The sound begins to fill the sky.

Bit, by bit, by bit.

Like ink spreading across a yellow tissue.

Like a drop of blood in water.

My eyes are watching the noise. My ears are seeing it.

It gets louder. Now mimicking locusts in flight.

From my upward gaze, my eyes slowly drag my sight downward.

Dragging it in a manner between reluctance and haste, between inertia and speed, yet slowly.

They dip down and then slightly upward to find him and his standing gaze to the left of me.

My sight meets his eyes. Knowing. Confirming.

My ears tuned on the sound, so near, two minutes to be exactly overhead.

Inside me, my stomach. Churns. Rich fluid of anticipation, fear and awakening.

In the process of producing something stronger than strength.

My heart. Contract so deeply.. like the sea drawing back large waves… like a deep breath taken in.

Then expelling blood with so much force enough to drown every cell in a second.

Sending forth not just red rushing down veins, but every ounce of courage it could muster.

Every grain of energy it possessed.

Outwardly my jaw tightened, ever so gently,

you would not have noticed if you hadn’t been watching me closely.

My eyes turned inward.

The wait was over. It was time.

 

-Hayah